It's that time of year again. The one where, in our Business/Practitioner and Personal Development worlds, and maybe in the more quiet, midnight, finally NOT busy moments that many of you out there might be having too, we all start reflecting on the year that was and what we will or wont take forward from it.
Maybe it was an awesome one for you and everything came together in whole, new amazing ways that blew your mind. In which case, whoo, hoo! High fives!
If there were some aspects of it that it hasn't quite gone or come together yet exactly how you hoped, again let me emphasise the YET, there's a story i wanted to re-share with you.
I think there's an analogy for what the journey can be like worth remembering in the film La La Land, when May puts on her play. Remember, when Sebastian arrived and, in tears, she told him she felt so mortifiedly embarrassed and like she'd failed because she "only" sold about 9 or 10 seats, couldn't pay back the theatre and she was done? It always makes me a little bit sad when i see that because
a) she's awesome
b) it's not uncommon to have had to cover the costs of running things in the early days...if only someone had told her that, and or taught her enough about manifestation to set the intention that, at minimum, she break even (or better) and
c) i'm the kind of person that, wether i was presenting at an event where i had a room overflowing with people trying to squeeze into an outdoor event space and rows of people around the outside wanting to listen to what i had to say even through a canvas tent, or i had 2 or 3 women in a new breakthrough workshop i was testing or a Women's Circle, i'm always like "FUCK YES, I GET TO HELP 2 or 3 PEOPLE WHO ARE INTO THIS ENOUGH TO COMMIT!" WHOO! And i'll give them as much of my everything as i'd give a room of 110. Shattering that her man didn't find a way to make it. But brilliant that 10 people came. Sure, 2 apparently didn't get it and she overheard mirroring her greatest fears that really she's not making it because she really doesn't 'have what it takes'.
But then one of those people just happened to be an agent, who totally saw her, and invites her to audition for a film they're shooting in Paris. They love her, they give her the part and built the movie around her. Then 5 years later, she walks in, in her fancy French dress, back into the cafe on the movie lot where she used to work, only now SHE's the famous actress being driven around on the gold cart that all the aspiring young actresses want to shout a coffee.
A few important lessons in that:
-never doubt your own value, right here right now.
-stay connected to the bigger picture of what's really always unfolding for us all and be grateful for every opportunity and the hidden or obvious gold within it
-Learn to truly see and enjoy every bit of the journey and be grateful for everyone and every experience along the way.
-you are not how many likes or comments you get on anything- a post, a review, a workshop, a play, whatever the thing. It doesn't mean what our mind often jumps to the conclusion that it must mean. We are not the sum total of our externally awarded fame or fortune, or perceived lack-there-of. And if you're looking up the peak of the mountain, only appreciating the climbers on top of it (while missing the value of the ones right next to you) aspiring from a place of "I'm not enough, I'll be enough, my life will be enough when X happens" you've lost your way.
-never wait to say the things in life that matter most, or make the people you love the most (and they you) a priority NOW because you never know when you might not get another chance
-sometimes in life, it's just a timing thing and you're waiting for life and other people to align. Some aspects of that are completely out of our control. What we can control is within us and we can choose what actions we take to stay in alignment with and in the proactive creation of our part of it.
What you can control at the end of this year is that there is still an audience of people out there who need exactly what you're putting down. And this year is not over yet. There's still 15 days left, with which you can make a difference for the year. And still do, or say, what's, as yet, left undone and unsaid, with the people who matter most. Fifteen days to find and create some gold within all that is and connect with what is still to be. What will you do with them? How can you most make them count?
Big love to you.
Nat talks about Self Expression, Heart Centred Communication and Lifestyle for Leaders.