There are many things I love in life, but If there is one thing I love in particular, it is the world of live events. Whether it's from the front of the stage, or the back of the room helping manage the experience that IS the event, or it's as a participant sitting in the middle OF that experience, there is a magic that happens at live events, when you gather together a group of people, that has the power to light up the room…and it lights me up like a Christmas tree. I love it. And whether you’re the one who has a message to speak or perform, the one who wants to run the event, or the one who wants to attend, I kind of live for for those moments where I can be of service to helping people realise their greatest potential through any of those 3.
That magic, the level of connectedness, the raising of energy and consciousness that happens in such spaces, has the power to heal the world. And it’s needed at this time on the planet, now more than ever.
Yet, when someone who has a fear of public speaking is feeling their heart start to race, that feeling in their gut and that tingling in the base of their spine, as you mention the possibility of them speaking at something to them, and their mind runs wild, recalling a memory of that one time when (x) happened, when I tell you about that magic, while it’s maybe reassuring for a moment, it can be a little hard to BELIEVE in it, I know! (Speaking from experience.)
Speaking, though, is a bit like exercise in that there’s a zone you have to push through to get to the magic. When you’re running, or swimming, for the first 5-10 minutes, as you get moving, your mind is like “What the hell? I think we’re DYING!”…..then after that, a beautiful rhythm, followed by a beautiful euphoria, starts to kick in…and you’re in your zone.
Speaking is kind of similar. If you can just stick it out through the first 5-10 mins, where part of you might be wondering if you’d RATHER die, while the adrenaline starts pumping. This time, instead of running or swimming, you’re staying present to the chance to be of service and following the flow of the backbone of what you prepared and starting to surrender to, to trust in the flow. Then after 5-10, just like exercise, it starts to feel synergistic and even a little bit euphoric. And then the magic starts to happen and you could stay up there all day.
But, just like running or swimming, you won’t know it, until you’ve pushed through and done it. Then once you’ve found the zone, you’ll never want to STOP doing it.
Having a performing arts background, some of you might think I have a kind of not-so-hidden advantage when it comes to that, and in one respect, you’re right. But in another, at a couple of others, when it came to professional speaking, I struggled. Because, once upon a time, way back when, I went through some moments in life that had some pretty violent consequence when I had stood in my truth and said no to both individual people and groups of people close to me. So that when it first came to putting myself and “my expertise” out there as a public speaker in the Wellness and later Business Industry, and potentially triggering and challenging some people’s world views too, I suddenly found myself all kinds of panic attacking terrified of doing it.
Given that this was blocking many more areas in life than just my speaking (and I flat out refuse to run away from this thing I love doing so much) for the next several years, I then went on a bit of a bender of learning everything i could about HOW to overcome that fear and those responses, to be able to then find my groove on stage again.
To have now spoken at numerous industry events and trained on high end business coaching programs, to have spoken at and run lots of my own events. And while, like some of my world leading speaking Mentors, I may not (yet) be the one you want to go to if you want to get paid 5-95K to be a Professional Conference Speaker, they are and I’ll happily point you in their direction:
-After several years of helping literally thousands of entrepreneurs and, at times, organisational Leaders overcome their stuff about putting themselves out there, and start using public speaking in their businesses to connect better with their audiences, help make a bigger difference and create successful commercial outcomes, and
-After helping others of them who were also in social enterprise and NFP get better at connecting and presenting, so that they could both make a bigger positive impact through their speaking and generate more support for their causes
If you need help with either of these things, my friend, I’m your gal. If I can help, just let me know.
P.S. Would you like to Join us in Sydney at the October Leaders and Public Speakers Practice Evening? And bring a friend or two for free?
Nat talks about Self Expression, Heart Centred Communication and Lifestyle for Leaders.