Uncovering our authenticity...and what does that really mean anyway?

​​​So we know that we're meant to be authentically us to get the most fulfilment and success in all aspects of life. But what does that even mean? And how exactly does one even be more authentic? How do we even know what is not authentic?

​I'd like to say that, as human beings, we're born butt naked with a clean soul slate and come in in our true energetic soul state. But in fact, we really start to take on an identity in this lifetime from the moment of conception.

​ ​All of a sudden we have two lots of DNA and the genetic memory encoded into them we've just taken on. In utero, we start to be chemically and physiologically influenced already by the biochemistry, the personality, the behavioural patterns, personal preferences and the energetic frequency of our Mothers. Plus what we can sense and perceive from our Fathers, the perhaps family in the home around us, the people and places our Mumma hangs out. Not to mention, by the frequency of the earth, the universe, and a whole bunch of spirits and energy beings, some intentionally and by agreement, and some perhaps more unconsciously. Not to mention possibly our other experiences across the various dimensions of time and space. And then we're born. And a whole new onslaught of sensory experience and learning begins, as life happens around us, people, animals, thought forms, emotions, signals, energy, electricity, wifi, beings, happen all around us and our parents direct (or in some cases perhaps neglect) the care given to us. We observe, we learn by cause and effect and the older we get, by wether our parents direct or our allow us to self reflect.

If you've ever spent lengthy amounts of time with babies and toddlers, you'll well know though that, despite all that,  there is always a wilful, very much sentient, self-aware, soulful part of us constantly spontaneously emerging though and it pushes back with force based on their developing wants, needs and desires throughout that period. 

Throughout childhood, as we grow, depending on whether our parents approved or didn't approve of any particular emerging part of that and behaviour we carried out, or emotional states we exhibited, acknowledged, or didn't acknowledge, we started to develop an identity, an ego construct of who we think we are and how we should operate in this world. Depending on what they approved of or didn't by praising it or scolding it, early on we may have begun to develop much of that identity as a direct reflection of our parents wants, needs, likes and dislikes. Until such time as the soul's desire to re-merge and self-validate and self-love, becomes stronger than the need for and attachment to external approval. 

And it just so happens that, over the last few centuries, a large part of that construct happens to be defined on what we do and like doing. When we talk to others about who we are, we have conversations and categorise and define ourselves based on our occupation, like "I'm a Coach, I'm an engineer, I'm an NLP Practitioner or Naturopath. The next set of questions are about what we like to do. "I love to dance", "i play golf," "I like hanging out in nature." Plus we have an ongoing dialogue and running summary of life, how things are and who we are cumulatively running in our heads the whole time. An ongoing stream of thoughts, which, if repeated often enough, become beliefs, patterns and the long standing stories that define us. All of this is brilliant. It all developed to help us survive and thrive as best we can in the world.  And we need to understand how this works in order to effectively work with and communicate with and relate with others in this time in history. So let's not throw all of that off the wagon.

But, take away all of that for a moment, and what else happens? Turn the mind down for a second and who are we? We don't cease to exist. We start to exist, in the present moment in a whole other way. A way in which we simply sense the world around us and again, either we sense the ongoing impact of all of that above playing out in our body chemistry and emotional body. and there is the possibility of, with our soul's eyes, seeing the world. And, as we just sit and be (and you'll speed this up if you sit in nature) the clarity of that soulful clean state and energetic state come back into play. Especially when we intend to bring this part of ourselves back to the forefront.


So to me, i think authenticity is about allowing ultimately the reintegration of the whole and creating space for the clarity of that to re-emerge. While it may, for a time, at times, involve separating or differentiating where we end and another begins, it's not about hurling off the part of ourselves we inherited or constructed in this lifetime as "bad." They're all a part of the multi-faceted being we have become in this lifetime and they will continue to inform our experience going forward. But authenticity i think ultimately is about allowing the whole to work together and coming into perhaps allowing the soul to inform the whole, so that we can have the experiences that we're here to have, bring through the amazing creations and innovations we are here to create. Not to mention have the beautiful experiences we are here to have with others, just by being present in each moment, not just with ourselves, but in witness and in connection with the beautiful people who emerge in front of us at any given time.

Not just as an accumulation of the identity and their doing-ness that they present with before us, which is part of it. But there's also another incredible level of experience to be had when we sit with another, intend to realign with our soul and our innate, soulful energetic signature of all we are and will be beyond what our mind believes we are and relate from that place. It's breathtaking and a privilege that so many of us in this life time only experience looking into the eyes of a beloved. Or maybe our nearest and dearest. And with good reason...you're stark naked vulnerable when you look at another from that place, and that's scary and your stuff can come up and clear very quickly in that place. But it's also where we're most powerful. Not to mention the place from which we have the power to make the greatest difference. Not by having to do anything huge. Just by being, simply, authentic, amazing, us. And letting the rest unfold.

Nat xxoo