Riding the Roller Coaster of the Holiday Highs & Lows? Try this...

 Hey there. In case you missed it in social media land, Happy Holidays to you! Thanks so very much for your support and tuning into this blog this year. I do hope you've found it useful. Wishing you a Happy and Safe Holiday season and all my well wishes for your best year yet to come in 2017!
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Aaaah, the holiday season. One of those times where much stands still while far more people than in our love focused community turn their focus too to love. Beyond all the religious and commercial celebrations, the goal setting and holiday marketing, we just can't help it, can we? Give us 5 secs to reflect on all those things from this year and what we inevitably find ourselves reflecting on REALLY is how well we connected with those we love and worked with this year. Amidst that, and whatever declarations, exchanges or family dramas came to pass, it's so normal to have massive highs and lows at the end of the year and for a few days, maybe not to feel a million bucks in the lead up to the new year. As we go about contemplating our years and what we feel did or didn't work and what we do or don't want to be and do and with who in the new year, death is, well, actually, an inevitability.

It is an inevitable part of the growth process and a necessity to learn to surrender to the natural cycle of death and rebirth as we learn new things and level up in our growth. Like the flowers that grow into fruits, sometimes the leaves and pettles need to fall off as a part of the process of the fruit growing. The fruit will ripen and perhaps be eaten. The tree will go on to shed all of its leaves for a bit and then be reborn with new growth again. And no tree does it alone. It grows with and is interdependent upon the trees and bees surrounding it for its polonization and continued evolution. 

​Death and decay, refertilisation and rebirth is an inevitable part of love and growth. We don't grow or evolve or manifest our next step if we refuse to surrender into to that natural law of our own human evolution. Which we do via our heart and allowing ourselves to "feel the feels." More than that, our relationships also require that we learn to trust in this process as it occurs in relationships of all kinds.

​Eventually, if we try to freeze frame relationships forever as they were in one perfect (or shitty) moment and don't trust that we can change and evolve together as we now are, or if we hang on too tight fearing other people's growth, relationships get stuck. Which feels a whole lot like death. Because it is. That's what is required. That is what one must surrender to in order to grow.

​Like the fruit tree, once the leaves and pettles are ready to fall off, you can't stop the growth process or bring those old bits back. You're not meant to. But if you surrender to the process, you can perhaps realign alongside each other on the other side, budding with new little fruits of who you're meant to be now. Sometimes, okay, it might be time for one of those trees to die and a new one to come up in its place. But more often than not, we have many years of growth to continue along side each other if we so choose....in a slightly more ambulant, nomadic, human way.

But my point is, this New Years, this new moon that sets the tone for the first month of the new year, hold your vision and all those you love in your heart. But don't be afraid to feel the feels and let their hand go for a moment, while you shed a few old pettles of old beliefs and the shrivelling, browning leaves and emotions of who you thought you were and how you thought things (and maybe others) were meant to be, or what roles you thought they were meant to play, to make way for the new and who you're really here to be and what you're here to create and co-create now. It might feel ackward right now. But you might be pleasantly surprised in many ways by what and who is waiting for you on the other side. I've said it a thousand times, let go and let soul. It knows so much more than your ego when it comes to matters of the heart. More than that, the divine feminine presence we all have within knows better than anything how to navigate this space with trust, love, humility and compassion (and that part is never surprised...because she already knew it was coming,) while some part of the ego would have you write the process of as nuts. It's not though.

Happy New Year to you. May your journey into 2017 be gentle. Looking forward to seeing you on the other side.

​Until next year, have fun, take care.

Nat xxoo