Wishing you a wonderful, fun, relaxing Easter break all 🙂 May your chocolate supply be plentiful. Hope you enjoy your time with loved ones and thinking of those of you who, for whatever reason, maybe can’t be with family in person this holiday break.
Here's some actually selfies of me this Easter, taking some actual downtime. Actually lazing in the shade for a couple of hours, actually meditating/contemplating on a beach, actually stopping to feel the ocean swirling around feet. Why do i say this?
Because something else occurred to me today, or rather over the last 2 weeks, while i must have walked past, through or behind literally a thousand selfies in motion on the Gold Coast pre Comm Games, constructing their social realities, in a world where it's increasingly becoming the case that, wether in our entrepreneurial lives or our dating and relating ones, our future success and fulfilment is deeply intertwined with the "brand me" identity we put online and it is increasingly the case that, as we consider posting anything, as Stillman and Stillman put it in Gen X at Work, we're all ever-more growing into constantly considering "does this really reflect well who i really am, what i stand for and "brand me?'
Today, i want to take it a step further to the next question, where does the balance lay between trying to please and prove some aspect of who we believe ourselves to be/some aspect of what we want others to see about us online AND just being the empowered embodiment of our highest potential?
Over the years, of most recently working as a Business and Leadership Coach, and prior to that (sometimes STILL now) a Relationship Coach, i've noticed the same thing happening in both realms of selling you and your services online and, in the dating sense, selling YOU online. And that thing is that there is a direct correlation between where the locus of control is sitting in terms of our perception of our personal power and entitlement and our success in engaging the type of clients or the quality of partner that our heart most desires to spend our time with.
The Personifier is a pretty cool place to aspire to be because they're in their power and their totally open to the flow of give and receive, both in business and relationship. They're in other words, masterful at manifesting what they want, relative to what the other person wants too and sustainably being of service. Like the Queen or the King, they are truly the Royal Ruler of their own reality.
Looking at that, does any one or ones in particular resonate for you? Can you see what the path of growth therefore will be to take things to the next level?
To recap on the blogs of this year so far, what can you work on to achieve that?
-Work on your self awareness
-Work on being authentically you
-Work on understanding the value that you bring to the table
-Work on effectively communicating what that is and negotiating for what you and the other party both want and or communicating how you can be of service
-Show up fully for whatever you agree upon and follow through to be, do and deliver upon that
So that you can lead and be of service to those you love while creating a life and a relationship you really love.
If you would like some support with any of that, this is exactly the kind of thing we look at in my 1 year Business and Leadership program and my Leadership Support program. If i can possibly help you out with any part of that process, just let me know.
And that's it for this week. Looking forward to chatting to you on the other side of of the break.
Nat talks about Self Expression, Heart Centred Communication and Lifestyle for Leaders.