Make it a "How Can I" week

​​Hey all. Hope you had a great weekend and happy Monday to you :) Right now, I'm into about my 13th year of conscious personal development. Most of the time, having worked with a whole lot of unwavering dedication towards loving and healing my most traumatised wounded bits, embodying more love and a life I love through thick and thin during that time, given where i've come from, and what feedback i now hear, i like to think, most of the time, i'm doing pretty well. That being said, I had some really challenging moments this last week. And i' sharing that challenge because i think the resolve i came to within that challenge is a great reminder to us all.

​There isn't really a gentle way to write, this, so I'm just going to say it, and pre-warn you that there's a little depth to it. Ok, now that you're a little more ready, here it is. At 35, I'm now a bit over a year from outliving my Mum. And while i place my focus being able to show up more in my business and for my clients and in my relationships, what I occasionally come face to face with in my day to day experience right now, is in some ways aspects of my Mothers experience at this time in her journey, that are still linked to my experience right now in my journey. Sometimes i still am processing and learning about things that happened when i was 8 from both our perspectives, from what i think and feel and what comes up in the present. And the confronting reality of this next year for her was that, for me to now be here writing this (funny, i just wrote "righting" this), she resigned to "I can't" and physically, mentally, spiritually, she surrendered and gave in.

So now for me at 35, no matter which way i experience this from, when i feel the "i can't" or the flow on for me of "she couldn't," the challenge for me now is to re-double my commitment to go all in and step up and live and love life even more than before. Instead of the default setting behind "holy fuck the mountain is huge, I can't", the question to be asking every day now instead is "how can i each day live a life i love and abundantly be of service and joyfully make a lasting positive impact in the lives of others?" Plus "how can i create and attract more of the support and resources i need to be and do that?"

It is amazing how one tiny shift in perspective and our focus, repeated often enough starts to make such a massive difference in how our reality unfolds and will unfold going forward. I think sometimes, for all of us in this industry, called to do this work, whatever the challenge is that feels like a mountain for you, sometimes we have to remind ourselves not to get overwhelmed by the size of the mountain, but bring it back to simple, single pointed focus on HOW CAN I, in my personal life, shape things to unfold in the way i now choose going forward? How can i have an outstanding quality of health and vitality? How can i have amazing, mutually fulfilling, heart expanding, joyful, growth enhancing relationships going forward?

And in business, HOW CAN I make the most positive impact and touch as many lives as i can in ways we both love going forward? How can i be simultaneously compensated extremely well, for the massive value i provide through thick and thin, so that i have the freedom also to live a life i love? How can i be supported to grow into my brightest, biggest self along the way?  

​These are the kind of questions we need to ask ourselves instead in our moments of going "holy shit, that's a massive mountain." What about you? Are there any "I can't" or "i cant be" moments playing out in your world right now? How can you shift your shift your focus to create more of what you desire in your world this week? I would love to hear.

Happy Monday to you. Hope you have a great week.

Nat xoxo