Getting your feminine sexy factor sorted...and how it helps your business

We all have one as women, right? Those women in the personal development space that we just HAD to work with because they just have that X factor. You don't necessarily know what it is at first, you know it's got something to do with being deeply connected to their feminine essence and wisdom and sensuality and un-apologetically owning that. And you're already working on that.

But still, you see it and you know you want to have whatever THAT is too, right? 

The good news is, if you're seeing it in them, logically it must already exist in you too. But the perhaps even better news is, you have a version all of your own that no one else has, that is waiting inside for you to cultivate it and let your own version of it shine.

And when you do, for no reason that has ANYTHING to do with being salesy or manipulative or misusing ones sexual power, but everything to do with you being authentically you, more women and men will be lining up to buy what you've got too. And, for that matter, just wanting to hang out with you too.
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1- Sexual Self Esteem: Developing a Positive Connection with our Bodies brings forward our sexy factor

Yes it's part self confidence, yes it's part positive body image, yes it's part connecting with your own gorgeous essence. AND it's also part building your sexual self esteem too. Because how we regard ourselves sexually has a huge impact on our ability to show up fully feminine present and in our flow. 


How you relate to your body relative to your sexuality has a huge impact on wether your heart and your body will open their gifts for you. When you cultivate a relationship with your body that is loving, gentle, kind, patient and respectful and speak to and treate your most sacred of private parts with this kind of love and tender loving care, magical things happen. Energy switches on, illnesses quickly heal, numbness disappears, sensation and the flow of energy returns and with it the potential gift of pleasure. 


So one of the most little known but super important things you can do to help get your own X factor on and flowing is take some time to notice how you relate to not just your body but your menstrual cycle, your life stage, your sexual and or reproductive functionality. And have a think about in what ways you can, acknowledge and appreciate all the wonderful things they do do for you and functions they do for you. What if you were to make a list of 20 things you love about your sacred lady parts, including the great experiences you've had together and appreciating the functions she tirelessly does for you? And what can you do to be a bit more physically loving and nurturing of this part of you? I actually took lead from some of the beautiful men I've been with on this one and really took notice of the loving, honouring, healing and fully appreciative energy and touch they were dishing out that helped me heal a lot of wounds in this area. We don't have to learn this whole self love thing in isolation. Sometimes the mirror of it given by someone else, wether from a sister circle or a beautiful partner, is exactly what we need to help us fully understand what it looks like to love ourselves and our bodies in the same way. It's like the Ne-yo song "Let Me Love You (until you learn to love yourself) 

​2- Opening up the throat chakra

Another big step that is presenting itself right now in helping women both tap their authentic expression and the X factor that comes with it, is taking a look at what's sitting in the throat chakra right now. Did you know that there is a big relationship between your throat chakra and your sacral chakra? In the female body, the throat actually sits in perfect alignment with the cervix.  So much that ends up expressing powerfully through our throat had its origins in creation in our wombs and vaginas and happens in connection with the opening or contraction of our cervix. In birth, in our sexual encounters, in learning to sing, we're using our breath to connect the two spaces and without that breath, it is literally impossible to have our vocal chords make sound. And all that soulful sacral chakra wisdom, and creative energy, in flowing upwards, thus eventually finds its expression through our voice.

I'm finding with many of the women I'm working with, there seems to be a big collective clearing going on right now of the last remnants of karmic clutter still sitting in this very pathway. And on the other side of that clearing and integration process, is a stronger, more grounded version of our feminine soulful sexy self.

How can you clear your throat and cultivate your voice more?

Sing, write, make sound, perhaps with throat chakra healing meditations, make time to express out loud through story or conversation the things you would normally not say, embrace opportunities to speak in public and gain support from your colleagues and coaches about what comes up on the way. 

3- Getting moving gets your sexy factor flowing

And of course, if you want to get your life force moving and a flowing up through your lower chakras, into connection with the higher ones, it helps to do some physical activity that gets your life force pumping through and between them and the happy endorphins flowing, not to mention the insights flowing and your resilience and belief in all you're capable of on in the forefront of your mind. It can be easy to forget when we get busy the link between our making time to move and that beautiful X factor we have. Does it matter what form of exercise you do? Not really. Going to the gym or for a ride or run will do it for sure. But so will yoga, any number of eastern movement practices, and feminine movement and dance practices designed specifically to open up the female body and energy centres. Not to mention ecstatic dance, tantric energy practice and good old fashioned what? That's right? Sex! Your radiant, sexy X factor waits within and on the other side. Does that motivate you more to get your sweet tooshy moving and shaking? ​Coz it sure inspires me to want to get up and dance.

Nat xx