So it's one of those weeks where the unexpected happens. Maybe you have a health thing come up. Maybe there is a major event in the news. Maybe someone at work f#$%ed up, maybe you f@$ed up, maybe something ended, maybe a client decided you're the whole reason their world and their emotional health is in a state of ruin. Maybe the loan or that new high end client thing fell through. Maybe a friendship or relationship or a family member threw a metaphorical grenade into the peaceful pond on which you were comfortably floating along. Maybe an email went out with a major communication boo boo in it and now 6000 people are sending you and your team hate vibes in return. One part of you wants to crawl under the doonah and not come out for a week, another stronger part wants to land on your feet. How do you stay open to the good things life still had coming your way before this peaking wave of change started heading your way? How do you lift yourself up to the place, in scientific terms that frequency, where you can still meet and receive all the gifts and opportunities this wave is carrying in after it's smashed what was to shreds? Here are a few of my favourite practices to help you lift out of the funk and stay on track.
1 Let it go, so you can get back in flow
First of all, let's not try and hide or deny the feeling crappy part. That's how illness begins. Stuffing down how we really feel leads to either we blow, or the functionality of our insides does. So step 1- if you have to shake it out, go for a run, or smash a punching bag, or go for a drive somewhere and make like Annette Benning in American Beauty and scream your guts out in your car in the rain, or even blow off some steam via a wee spot of some high energy, feisty sex, honor and make time for your process, however it looks, somewhere in the day. Part of self love is acknowledging how we feel. All of it. The good, the bad and the ugly. Let it flow out and through in healthy ways you choose. As on the other side of all that overwhelm, grief, angst, is love and the energy of something better to come. Negative emotional states never are and never were meant to be permanent. Trust in the process 101 of human emotional health and human biological imperative to return to homeostasis. On the other side of that, one might also ask oneself, what was the golden gift in the experience?
2 Engage resolutely in multiple acts of gratitude
Start brainstorming anything and everything you have to be grateful for in life and, if you like, make a list, because, well, as they say, if you want to attract more good things into your world, the best place to start is by appreciating all that you already have. Who in your world are you appreciative of? What can you appreciate about yourself? How many amazing experiences have you had? What are 10 ways in which things could be infinitely worse than they are right now? I often make myself laugh with this one, Why not give yourself permission to do the same? Which brings me to the next point.
3 Let loose your inner child and play...
What makes you laugh like a 5 year old who just saw a funny goat video for the first time? What could you do for a even a few minutes in the spirit of good fun? In the age of Google, the possibilities are endless, as they are in the realm of human imagination. Gather some friends, whether virtually or literally and let the fun times begin,
4 Keep on giving
Sometimes falling on your feet involves getting straight back out there, asking who am I here to be now and how can I be of service now, and to who? What am i here to give now? What do i now have the ability to create? Then when you can, start taking little steps on being, creating, giving to that.
5 Allow yourself to receive
Who are the people around you right now you can call on who would be only to willing to show you kindness, encouragement, love and positivity? Who'll give you a big hug and a massage to get rid of all that tension? Maybe it's booking a massage and just receiving. Maybe it's going outside, sitting under a tree, going for a drive to a hill or a beach and receiving all the goodness and gentleness that Mother Nature has to give. Maybe its receiving the love of the animal kingdom. I always think of this episode of the Mighty Boosh in which Naboo the Shaman is helping Howard with his anger problem and uses the picture of Phillip the cute Kitten to help him mellow out. But seriously though, it's scientifically proven; hanging out with our pets helps normalize our heart rhythm and return to the warm and fuzzies faster.
6 Eat living food or natural, unprocessed food
Speaking of nature, what can you be eating and filling your body with which will support you to lift and feel light, plus help you to process out the stress and heavy energy? What foods will help you cleanse and detox? Build your immunity? Have you noticed how your insides sing when you have that green smoothie or that raw superfood salad? The whole raw vegan thing is not just hippy whoo hoo, there have been scientific experiments done looking at the energetic frequency of different types of food. The frequency of canned food for example is about 0Mhz, of fresh produce ~15MHz. The overall frequency of the healthy human body is approximately 62-68MHz. We're in serious trouble if the energetic frequency of the body drops below 25MHz....that's the death's door zone. But the point was, the human body seems to like it better when we eat or apply things (like pure plant medicines and essential oils ~52-320MHz) with an energetic frequency that entrains better with our own.
7 Have an energy healing/clearing session
A big part of what i teach my clients is energetic self care. The human body is one big energetic field of electrical activity. When we're stressed and unhappy, quite literally, the energetic rhythm, the frequency of certain parts of our body gets out of whack. Reiki, Kinesiology, Shamanic healing or any of the countless varieties of energy healing methods available can help us to get the body back in it's natural rhythm. Ask any staff member in a cardiac unit, they will confirm for you the absolute reality of the energetic aspect of our health. But if you need a little credible scientific validation of energetic healing, but aren't in the mood to pay for several scientific journal subscriptions, check out the 50 page bibliography full of journal articles and the remainder of the book full of other primary sources of evidence based and qualitative research on the effectiveness of Spiritual Healing modalities in the following text:.
Benor, D.J., Spiritual Healing: Scientific Validation of A Healing Revolution (Healing Research) Paperback – Vision Publications, 2000
Thousands of clients in that book report that they believe having energy healing sessions helped them get back in their groove faster. Many of my past Reiki or Shamanic Healing clients have said the same. Thus I suggest to you, or remind you, the next time you're going through it, why not book in for an energy healing session or touch therapy like Shiatsu or Lomi Lomi as a part of your self care and get back in your groove strategy ?
8 Tweak your environment to better support your wellbeing
What colours are you wearing or surrounded by in your environment? What emotions do they elicit? What scents are you surrounding yourself with and how are they supporting your health and emotional state? What oils might support your well-being right now? What's the air quality like around you? How can you get some fresh air? What music or lyrics are you listening to? This is important to consider, as we can literally start to become what we listen to. Negatively focused, pain filled songs can be good for step 1's cathartic release, but aren't going to support your cause much if you're trying to overcome depression or stop going in circles with the very trauma or heartbreak they refer to. Also listening to song after song full of heart break, or any frequencies of sound which disrupt the balanced biochemical and energetic rhythm of the human body rather than balance it and promote well-being too has been shown to negatively impact our emotional and physical well-being. On a subtle level, we even have to be careful with the happy pop songs to watch for subtle limiting beliefs implied in the lyrics by the writer. The same applies with movies and TV shows. Watch how your behavior subtly changes in life in the days following you watching several episodes of Game of Thrones or True Blood. Believe me, it does. What music, movies or TV will support your well-being right now? It's time to make some conscious choices. What can you surround yourself with or tweak in your environment right now which will best support your well-being aspirations and be your best self, faster?
9 Surround yourself with positive, inspiring people
Finally, one of the best ways to lift yourself out of a funk is to refocus on the positive by actively seeking out, online or in person people, public figures, Mentors, Leaders in your field, communities or causes, who inspire us and help us realign with our sense of purpose, motivation and conviction. Not to mention how lovely it can be to be surrounded by a tribe of people, whether in your family, friend or work circles or online communities who are full of praise, encouragement, reassurance and can mirror your positive qualities, gifts and highest potential back to you in any moments where you've temporarily lost connection with it. Bless them. Who can you be connecting with right now who will help you be and grow into the best version of you, succeeding in all that you do?
So there you have it, 9 things you can do immediately to lift lift lift in any given moment when business, or life throws you a curve ball, to help you get back on your feet faster, being the amazing person you know you're here to be, doing the needed work you know you're here to do. Do you have any other tips or strategies you use that you'd like to add to the list? Feel free to comment below.
Thanks for reading and, until next time,
Have fun, take care.
Nat talks about Self Expression, Heart Centred Communication and Lifestyle for Leaders.