How are you this week my friends? What is news in your world this week? After an incredible weekend with some wonderful, super inspiring attendees and the awesome crew at the Melbourne Free Humanity this weekend just been, I started this week feeling a little extra inspired and loved up than normal. And love and saying yes to both doing what we love and receiving more love in our lives are forefront in my mind. So for this week my Entrepreneurial and Leader friends, I now give you 7 ways to say YES to having more love in your life. Because, well...who doesn't want more love in their life?
1- Practice a Little Self Care
I think we all know what it is now right? But the question is, what do you personally need this week? What can you do to show yourself a little bit of love and loving kindness?
Maybe it's a massage. Buying that essence someone said would support you right now. Maybe it is getting out of bed a little earlier to do yoga or dance. Even though (at least in the Southern Hemisphere) it's cold and dark, maybe it IS allowing yourself to catch up on some sleep. Maybe it's listening to that inner inkling that you need to eat more of this and kick that one other thing out of your diet.
Or maybe it's a little mental kindness. Like making and reading a list of 10 positive things about yourself TO yourself. Particularly if you're a Leader type, maybe you might exercise a little loving kindness and forgive yourself for that thing you did last week that wasn't as perfect as you'd hoped, or that came out wrong.
AND last but not least, one of my personal favourites, if any part of you has got the crankies or the saddies this week, maybe instead of telling that dude who cut you off to do a left hand turn to go f@#$ themselves, maybe you (and maybe someone significant other you enjoy the company of might....well, go make love to yourself. Chocolate, or sex in fact....name for me two better forms of self care. But hey, that's me. And the question was, what is it that YOU need this week to look after you?
2- Connect with a Tribe of People you Love
Who are the people in your world who you connect with who are really positive, inspiring, fun, funny, share your values and are on a similar path, accept you for you and support and encourage you to be who you're here to be (and vice versa)? Gone are the days where we change agent leader types have to walk around Mission Impossible Style, wondering if we'll ever be able to be all of ourselves in the world. Here is the era of (provided you do the inner work and own your sh#t) when you walk into a room and find a whole bunch of lovely people ready to look you in the eyes and truly meet you, love you, all of you, even the strong powerful feminine bits and the bits you worry they wont) and ask how can i help you be more of you? If you haven't connected with such a tribe of lovely individuals yet, feel free to ask me about one of mine.
3- Show your Clients Some Extra Love
How can you show your clients some extra love this week? Have you told them how much you appreciate them lately? Is there something you've created recently that you can send them? Is there some support you now offer that you haven't yet offered to some of your existing clients yet, who you think might benefit from it? Sometimes our clients really appreciate it when we take the initiative to see where they are and share with them a potential solution. It's not being pushy, it's loving and being willing to offer it from a place of genuinely wanting to see them be supported to step up and shine in who they're here to be/what they're here to do is a measure of your doing your job well by showing that you genuinely care. What other ways can you think of to show your clients some extra love?
4- Do that thing you've been putting off doing that you know you'll love
For every one of us, there's always some secret hidden desire waiting within...some work thing we want to create, some goal we'd really love to achieve, some place we'd really like to see or live or person we'd really love to connect with. Yet these are the things we are really good at putting perfectly legitimate reasons and responsibilities in the way of. Maybe we're worried we'll be letting someone down if we do what we want. Yet the truth remains that, if these desires lay in our hearts, they are our soul speaking and if our soul is speaking then there is a way that this thing can come to be that is best for all involved, probably in a way that is far more ingenious than our brain has managed to comprehend just yet. And if the people around us truly love us, than they will be open to loving and supporting us to live our life purpose and be in integrity with what is in our deepest heart of hearts. What if we were to expect the best to come to pass? Because here's the thing, when it's meant to be, all the right doors and resources just magically align in all the right ways, at all the right times and all we find it front of us is a wellspring of YES. Ive seen it time and time again. So why not make this the week to take one little step that locks you into creating that experience you so desire that you know you'll love? .
5- Love Your Shadow
One other thing to love, as Human Service Based Professionals, holding space for the growth and transformation of others...our own shadow. Whether we or they realise it consciously or not, clients don't just pick us for our gifts, they also pick us for our shadow. Because very often our shadow may well be the familiar territory to which they've been accustomed most of their lives. It may well be the safe terrain in which they will hide to avoid change and maintain the exact identity another part of them wishes to overcome. Thus, if you want to be that brilliant therapist who helps people achieve amazing levels of transformation and change in their lives, start by taking a regular look in the mirror at what triggers you and take a little ownership of that thing you're judging as "not you" in the client in front of you...could there maybe be something there for you to love and transform through too? Holding space in my experience is rarely of benefit in only one direction in terms of who gets the growth. We call in clients who will show us as much about ourselves as we would like to show them. Thus, I believe we have a responsibility as Practitioners to own and make peace with our shadow, so that we can be the best version of ourselves for our own benefit and so that our clients will truly thrive in our presence. Plus it's hard to truly move towards what we love when we're running away from the things about ourselves we haven't learned to love and accept yet. So another way to say yes to love, own your own shadow.
6- Tell Someone That you Love Them
Maybe it's a partner, maybe it's a child or a friend you'll see this week, or maybe it's a colleague who's video you watched and thought was awesome. So often we think lovely things about the people around us, but for one reason or another, don't share them. Why not share the love by sharing those loving thoughts this week? Maybe it's telling a colleague it's great to see their eyes sparkling again after a hard week. Maybe it's acknowledging something a friend or work colleague or partner does for you all the time that you're grateful for. Whatever is authentic for you as you go about your week. This is your call to action to embrace the love language of words of affirmation and share the verbal love and gratitude this week.
7- Receive Some Love (and Much Needed Support)
Finally, sometimes the trickiest one, yet often the most needed one, especially for us Independent Woman Leader Types and Leader types full stop, receiving back some of all that love and support we so often give out. Sometimes it's not easy i know. Then sometimes we get busy trying to get so many things done and need to remind ourselves to simply connect with other human beings and the natural world around us. And let them love us. Let them support us. What do you need this week in terms of friendship and connection? Physical intimacy? What love and support might you need from a partner? And from your work team? What material or financial support do you need? See it my friend and call it in, without condition or expectation. So long as you're truly willing to receive it, it will be there. The universe is always conspiring in our favour and happy to reward us for having the courage to say an emphatic "hell yes" to what we really want. Then rejoice with child-like wonder when some one arrives to deliver, maybe even someone you didn't expect...and life's wonderful magic unfolds. How exciting is this?
So there you have it, 7 ways to help you not only give but receive more love in your business and your life this week. Because some times we just need a reminder. And a starting point. As I once told a friend's daughter, love is infinite, it never runs out. What are some extra ways you can think of to share the love this week? Feel free to share.
Until next time, have fun, take care.
Nat talks about Self Expression, Heart Centred Communication and Lifestyle for Leaders.