And a shout out too, to all the beautiful people out there (from E.D.and hospital, mental health and community services staff, to emergency services personnel and volunteers, to people in the armed forces, to the person pouring the coffee, the beer or handing us the receipt for the $50 of ULP or diesel, and anyone in between, who is working today and through the break, so that the rest of us get to have that safe and happy time this holiday season: can we join together in sending them a big thank you, we see you and big love to you for all you do.
Making the choice to share part of your personal journey with an audience for the purposes of either motivation, education or transformation is a brave one, and one that, no matter how much personal development work, or how much theoretical training you’ve done, the only way to know if you’re truly “ready” for it, is by getting in the arena and giving it a go.
The other night at Sydney Leaders and Public Speakers, one of the themes that the wonderful Mandy Merrifield first opened us up to, was how "expert" we feel in our work and Leadership at any given time. People rarely talk about it, until someone raises the "Imposter Syndrome" card in a training or coaching session. But group consensus was that pretty much every Leader we've ever spoken to, has had a time where they wondered if they were "enough" for the work they were employed to do or were stepping into doing more of in their business and were scared that someone was going to come tap them on the shoulder and tell them the same.
Have you (or you and your team), in review of the current state of play with clients (e.g. while looking at the most recent touch points, missed payments, or reviewing progress or outcomes of projects or programs they’ve engaged with) ever had a client or clients just seem to disappear completely off the radar and wondered what exactly happened, or where they went? Have you ever then found yourself wondering what (if anything) you should do to get them re-engaged? Or how you should handle reaching out?
You’d not be alone in that if you had. For decades, people have employed and more recently contracted my business to help get to the bottom of what is going on when a client has gone MIA or not paid. So over the years, I’ve found myself having, many, many conversations about exactly this.
There is power in showing up as the whole of our authentic selves and being proud of ALL of it.
Have you ever had a moment where you were afraid to share in public, or share with someone who means a lot to you, or you hope might someday be more of a part of your world, a particular part of yourself, that you feared might not be that loveable? That you feared might scare them away? Shame (because that’s what it’s really about, underneath the worry and anxiety about what MIGHT happen) can be such an incredibly powerful DEMOTIVATOR and DETERRENT from putting our authentic selves forward, in all aspects of life.
The paradoxical thing is though, if you just try and move on with acting “as if” and constructing another version of you, that’s all very well for a start.
Write something about yourself. No need to be fancy, just an overview.